My birth mother was 19 years old, unmarried, and Catholic when I was born. She was living in a home for un-wed mothers and as the story goes was hoping and waiting her entire pregnancy for my birth father to propose. She waited 2 weeks after my birth to relinquish me to the courts and off to foster care I went.
I found this out when I was three standing outside my grandparents garage with my father (they adopted me when I was 3 months old). He explained I was a chosen child. That he and my mom had many, many children to choose from to adopt and they chose me. While I heard his words, I could feel my whole world crashing down around my tiny 3-year-old body. Why didn’t those other ones want me? What did I do wrong? Where are they? What else about my life is a total lie?
Fast forward and the month of March has long been a “bad” month. It’s been hard, difficult things have happened, etc. Last year it was the month I had a miscarriage. Heart break again. So year after year I have been braced for the “bad” based on something I made up when I was 3. This year is about transformation, so, what if it was a month of celebration?
So this month, every single day I am doing something for me. Something fun, or whimsical, or indulgent. Perhaps even a woo woo ritual or two. Every day. All 31 of them. No skipping. No cheating. Every day. I honor my birth.
How, so far, you ask? An Atlantean healing session, a play date with my niece and nephew, yoga, getting my legs waxed (ok love/hate there, but love smooth legs), attending a goddess ritual, gazing at the moon, singing because it makes me feel good, watching a beautiful sunset, dancing. I was also given a tree of life necklace that I adore. I’m loving March.
What I’m seeing so far is that it’s about intention. I literally made a choice followed by a commitment and the thoughts, feelings, and emotions just seem to be following suit. So I’ve got the rest of the month to go for this re-birth and would love more ideas.
What would you do to have fun, connect to your spirit, or honor your birth? Even if it’s not your birthday month, I invite you to join me in honoring you. I can’t imagine anything greater than all of us having our best month ever. So, share your ideas and join the fun. Let’s rock this month!